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Patience

Erstellt von William

3. Februar 2021

Patience is one of those virtues that sounds simple from a distance. However, while the thought of waiting for something you want or need seems easy in theory, it is much more arduous in practice. When you’re actually faced with the obstacle, the entire concept of patience grows more challenging, and it can be difficult to improve patience in the moment.

No matter the gravity of the situation, mindfulness can help you practice patience. What is the link between mindfulness and patience? Let’s have a look:

Patience vs. Mindfulness

To understand the role mindfulness plays in being patient, let’s make sure we are all working off of the same definition of patience, which, according to Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary means, “bearing pains or trials calmly and without compliant” and “steadfast despite opposition, difficulty, or adversity.”

You can’t really practice patience if you’re not mindful – aware of the situation you’re in and your reaction to it. In the face of discomfort, inconvenience, or difficulty, which is an inevitable part of life on this planet, you must persevere calmly, steadily, and mindfully.

Effective Ways To Be More Patient

This single, often-overlooked skill offers numerous advantages, and fortunately, it is not something you have to be born with. Anyone can work to become more patient—all it takes is a few smart strategies like these:

1. Practice Being Patient

It might sound simple, but practicing patience truly is a legitimate way to improve your patience. After all, how do you improve your skills in playing the piano? Or making the perfect poached egg? Practice, practice, practice.

Everyday life will no doubt provide you with ample opportunities to practice your patience, but if you would prefer to have more focus and control when practicing, try a few of these things:

Read a difficult novel, such as War and Peace

Complete a large jigsaw puzzle, or a book of Sudoku

Commit to cooking meals from scratch

Take public transport to work

Ban yourself from looking at your phone while waiting for appointments

Offer to babysit for a friend or family member

All of these tasks require patience—-they force you to wait and push you to remove expectations, which are keys to becoming more patient.

2. Focus On Why You Are Impatient

Focusing on the reason behind your impatience can help you shine a spotlight on your impatience.

Do you detest waiting in line at the grocery store because you’re hungry and want to get home to eat? Or because you’re running late for an event?Inspect the real reasons why why you’re feeling impatient. When you acknowledge those reasons, you may be better placed to take control over those feelings and stop stressing about them.

3. Remind Yourself That You Are Merely Uncomfortable

Life is the longest thing any of us will do, but sometimes, mere minutes can feel like they stretch an eternity.When you are in these situations—like being put on hold or stuck in traffic—it can feel extremely uncomfortable. You are waiting with little to no control over the situation.

However, try to remember you are simply uncomfortable. These situations are not impossible, or life-threatening, so even though it may not be enjoyable, it is certainly bearable. Learning to recognize and accept discomfort may make it easier to cope with.

4. Distract Yourself

Many situations that demand patience simply require you to wait, such as a long plane ride or a lengthy line at a restaurant.In these scenarios, there’s nothing you can do to speed things up, but you can fill that time productively – so distract yourself.

Listen to a podcast, type out a quick email you’ve been meaning to write, beat the next level on Candy Crush, or complete your daily minutes on DuoLingo to learn a new language. There are always ways to fill time that don’t include simply fuming over the situation and feeling angry or negative.

5. Practice Empathy

In many cases, the reason for your impatience is another person, and in most cases, a little empathy can go a long way.For example, imagine you’re stuck behind an elderly gentleman or woman in line at the grocery store, fuming as you watch them slowly count out their cash and coins.

This is your time to take a moment to remember to be empathetic rather than impatient. Even if they are making you run late, think of them as your own elderly relatives, your own loved ones.Reminding yourself that the “cause” of your impatience is only human, and that they’re likely doing the best they can, may help you feel considerably more patient in the moment.

6. Accept What You Cannot Change

Many situations in life require patience, and often there’s absolutely nothing you can do about it.Perhaps you’re waiting to hear back from the bank, or you’re waiting to recover from an injury so you can get out and exercise again. These things simply take time, and stressing about it doesn’t help the situation — or you.

Acknowledge these moments, and strive to accept them. Overanalyzing and overthinking them will only stress you out further, but if you accept that you can’t change the situation, you’ll be free to let your mind wander to more positive places.

7. Focus On The Bigger Picture

Will the cause of your impatience matter in five years’ time? Will it even matter in five hours?Often, the reason behind why you might be feeling impatient is not the end of the world, and by reminding yourself that it doesn’t interfere with the bigger picture, you may be able to let it go more easily.If something small or insignificant is driving you batty, try to place it in the context of the bigger picture.

8. Look To Others

Look around you – how are other people dealing with the same difficult situationThere are many times when you’re not suffering through trying situations by yourself, and by being surrounded by others, you have two options for dealing with it.

In the first, you can learn from other people. Watch how they deal with it and emulate their calm response to improve your own patience.In the second, you can be the one leading by example. Even if you’re feeling ready to scream internally, an audience can help you to rein in your annoyance and put on a face of stoicism and practicality.

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